Saturday, 29 August 2009

sad news...

A very dear man called Reg that I used to know died last night. He was 81. He used to be my father-in-law. I was married to his son for 13 years, but with him for 17 years, so I knew Reg very well..... , a truly wonderful, lovely man.
Im upset for my girls. Two are away for the weekend, thankfully, but the eldest Kirsty was with her Grandad when he died. She is a very brave, caring girl, who at the tender age of 18 excelled herself last night, and I am so proud of her. She is training to be a nurse at our local hospital, but to be able to deal with the death of a loved one, goes far beyond the emotions of caring for patients.
This has hit me harder than I expected. When I split with my ex, nearly 7 years ago, it was bitter and nasty, and I also fell out with one of his brothers, and since then I have never had the chance to go to see my ex father in law, but before all that we were very close, and I spent a lot of time with him. The rest of the family talk to me and now things are better with the ex and we can talk, and I have text him today to say if there is anything I can do , then just ask. But I just feel so sad that I never had chance to say goodbye to this lovely man.
The funeral will inevitably be in a week or so's time, I would love to go and pay my respects, but really don't want to upset anyone by being there...... its so hard.


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5 comments:

  1. Aww Im so sorry to hear your sad news Tina. I think you should go to pay your respects, you knew him for a long time n you have every right to be there, I am sure you would want to be there also to support your girls. Surely no one could be upset with you for that. I am sure he would have been very proud of your daughters. take care xx

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  2. That is so sad Tina, my heart goes out to you. It is a difficult position to be in. You and your ex have moved on and can now talk, so I would play it by ear. See how he wants to handle things. The rest of the family should be guided by his actions.

    Being there for your lovely daughters is the main thing now. You most be very proud of your eldest.

    Big hugs to you all,

    Sheilagh

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  3. So sorry to hear your news Tina, my thoughts are with you and your girls xx

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  4. that is so sad, what terrible news, my thoughts are with you all xxx

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  5. Thanks guys. Im pleased to say that I have been told I would be more than welcome at the funeral as they know my ex father-in-law would of wanted me there. I am pleased. Thanks for your concerns everyone x

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